The holidays are supposed to be a time filled with joy. Unfortunately, if you are going through a separation or divorce, the season can be filled with pain, stress and loneliness. I am here to reassure you that you can make it through the holiday season and maybe even find a little bit of magic this time of year. Here are some tips on surviving the holidays during a divorce:
Make the most out of your parenting schedule: If your children will be with your ex on Christmas Day or on the start of Hanukkah (or on whichever special occasion you celebrate), make the most of the holiday by having a celebration with the kids on another day. Opening gifts, watching a festive movie, caroling and enjoying a nice dinner does not have to be done on the actual holiday. Christmas Day on the Saturday prior to the 25th? Why not?! It is also important to stay positive in front of your kids and reassure them you will be fine celebrating separately.
Plan new traditions: Whether it is for yourself or with your children, come up with unique and exciting traditions to enjoy from here on out. Though it can be difficult to let go of the sentimental traditions you once shared with your ex, these new experiences just may become a few of your favorite things! Here are some fun and festive ideas: - Invite your girlfriends over for a dinner party - Plan a gingerbread house-decorating day with your kiddos - Book a spa weekend winter getaway with the girls - Set a night aside to go shopping with your kids to purchase items for local toy drives
Look at the bright side: Instead of dwelling on your divorce, focus on the good things in your life and what the future might hold. This time of uncertainty is also a time of great potential. By this time next year, you could be dating someone new or single and happier than you have ever been. There is a reason for everything and you just may be on the path to your best life.
Get professional support: A Certified Divorce Coach is professionally trained to help you with the monumental impact a divorce can have on your life. Certified Divorce Coaches like Cat Blake will give you emotional support throughout the entire divorce process (yes, even through the holidays!) -- from pre-divorce advice, during-divorce counsel and support, and post-divorce planning for the future. Check out Cat Blake’s website to learn more about her services.
I hope this holiday season gives you a renewed sense of hope, encouragement and excitement for things to come. Happy Holidays and best wishes for a happy, healthy and peaceful new year.