High-Conflict Divorce & Co-Parenting Resources

Pas De Deux Every time, I started with a new psychotherapist; I would receive the same diagnosis. Codependent Personality Disorder. It is and always will be – my sickness. But as the years went by, I would sometimes wonder if it had just become my mental frame go-to. What if a therapist had labelled me with ‘Big Hearted Empath” or even “Super Supportive Lover” – might I have changed my behaviors and choices in my relationships quicker? Or would I still have carried around the

Stuck in THIS dating hell? Some version of. . . . . ‘I only seem to be attracted to emotionally unavailable partners and the ones attracted to me are ugly/poor/not my type etc. ‘ Oh. . . I hear you. . . SO HOW DO YOU TAKE CONTROL OF THIS? You first have to OWN YOUR PART. . . and no, it’s not any of the following reasons (because this is even what I hear from other coaches and therapists!) I cringe every time. . IT’S YOUR FAULT FOR LIKING ‘BAD BOYS/GIRLS’. YOU KEEP UNINTENTION

John Gottman, the world renowned researcher of marriage often uses this term, “Bids for Attention”. They are the moments when you reach to your partner and express a need. Maybe it’s a simple need for eye contact or a hug or an ear to listen – but we all do this. Even when we are not consciously aware that we have needs; our behavior might prove otherwise. According to Gottman, in the beginning of a relationship, couples are doing this (hopefully) with high frequency. They a